i completely hate my family

[bobyboy]

Somehow it seems no matter what i do or say im always wrong, i try to be friends withmy brother and he takesit as an attack. My sister is either with me or against me with everything, and my parents never take my side or ever listen to my part of the story. It's driving me crazy, sometimes i believe that i wouldn't care if i didnt have a family at all.

[the shiznat]

some advise for dealing with ure brother is just continue to be nice to him, and if u continuously are nice to him no matter what he does he will evntualy see that it works. i also had the same problem with 2 brothers, and now its all fine. if he takes it as an attack and is mean back to you, dont gte all upset and agrivated, rather you should just continuoisly be nice to him. trust me, i know from experience.

[Confuzedinlimbo]

Try bringing it up. next time your brother takes something you do as an attack say "look, i was only trying to help." Make it clear that your intentions are good on all grounds.

~confuzed in limbo~Your starchild~

[darkfairyeyes]

Well I know the feeling of hating your family. I just over heard my mother talking about going to court with my dad because she cant pay the bills. Its not fair I dont know what to do. I cry all of the time because Im so confused. My boy friend made me go to my shrink but it wont help. I feel completly alone and scared
~hopeless~

[Confuzedinlimbo]

I have one of those families with the big house, kids and a dog, a house in the suburbs. We have a fireplace, I have my own cell-phone, lap top and I go to private school. Clothing, food, a ride, no problem.
IT MAKES ME SICK!!!!
I guess I should be grateful for all my family does for me but I find myself wanting them to lay off more than give me hugs. They offered me a certain 'luxury gift' (something kinda expensive) at least a dozen times and I say no. Then what do they give me in front of all my friends for my birthday, that exact gift! I's not like i'm not appreciative, but I didn't need it, i didn't want it, what do they think they're doing?
They give me one more hug I will puke, and like, they're so sweet all the time. Now, don't think i'm some ungrateful kid. I love my parents so much and they are the best (even without all the presents), I just wish they'd lighten up sometimes.
I guess it al depends on how much you vamue family. When you have family shoved down your throught as much as possibble I guess you start to value it less, and i find myself just wanting to run away.

~confuzed in limbo~your starchild~

[TheBlueGreenMystery]

if thats the only problem you guys have with your family, consider yourself lucky. my problems are much, much worse

[Confuzedinlimbo]

I guess I have no right to be here seeing as that really is my only problem and ,and maby i'm being nosy by asking but I'm going to-care to tell us what;s up with your family?

~Confuzed in limbo~ your starchild~

[TheBlueGreenMystery]

well for now, all ill say (and by saying this one person will know who i am, but she probab;y does anyways) is that i typed up my problems here origionally and it took me a half an hour of strait typing to type it all up, and when i was just about done, my comp froze. then i decided to say F*CK THIS and i was really pissed off. when i have time to type it up again and im in the mood then i might. but i just got in another fight with my parents and im not in the mood for anything really.

[kiyara]

omg, I hate when that happens. I hope you type it again soon! I really feel bad for you right now, b/c I am pretty empty as I may have said, my family situation is pretty crappy at the moment, and I am really thankful that these boards a moving along again because about a week ago there was like a 2 week dull period where nobody posted anything. Anyways, I almost want to talk to you on IM bluegreen, or something because right now these boards are a good thing that takes my mind off of other stuff and its great to duscuss all these things with other people that are really in this yeshiva high school situation now. I am going to leave now and do my homework...oh wait I dont have any, Ill just be bored and empty. No, maybe I'll watch friends. Anyway, I want to hear what you have to say!

[i got issues]

If you think that you have issues, i have so many more issues, just look at my other posts. Either way, we all have some serious issues so we have to get each other through this, For example, i have my masturbation problem(9-10 a night) and blue green has his/her fmily problem. We have to be there fore each other and that what we are there for.
Holla back ova hea,
I got issues

[TheBlueGreenMystery]

yea well the masturbation problem - beleive me its just a phase... ull get over it, and ull be ok. these family issues arent like that...
but anyways thatnks.
rememberm just keep urself busy

and i still think 9-10 is an exaggeration, im pretty sure it isnt physically possible

[Maddox]

Actually it is.. the resting period after you masterbate is like 20 minutes I believe.. so 9 times a day would take a total of 3 hours a day.. believe me.. I would know.. I do it 12 times a day, and I'm proud of it.. God has nothing on me..

[TheBlueGreenMystery]

umm... no u see the resting periiod all depends on how long ago u ejaculated, and how often. so thats not true. and i know this, i have a book that was written on the subject by a bunch of scientists, who experimented. so the more do it, the harder it will be for you to do it again.

have a nice day

[Maddox]

What is it with people saying "ummm..." before they try to counter with something.. thats just pretty obnoxious.. are you like uncertain about what you're going to say? "ummm, noo.." If you're going to say something just say it.

[raistlin]

well maddox, on this point at least I agree with you 100%. Spit it out guys (and girls).

Anyhoo - confuzed - you can totally post here. You don't a need a right to. In fact, your comments could be really valuable. You represent the other extreme - the life with no problems - while a lot of other people here have lives full of problems. You could really balance out the blog. I mean, I'm sure people in less "fortunate" situations than yourself wish they could be in your place, and you can be there to tell 'em that it's not all a bowl of cherries. As to your problem (which is a legitimate one), see, I don't know your or your parents (at least I believe I dont - you never know (que X-Files music)) but it could be that even tho u say u love your parents a lot they don't know that. Not through any fault of your own I'm sure, but a lot of parents are just as insecure as some of us teenagers. They may feel that they have to (and that they can) buy your love . . . continually because gifts wear off. I don't know right now how to solve this problem, giving "mussar" to adults is tricky business because it threatens to undercut the peaceful, solid foundations on which they've lived for the past 20 or 30 or 40 years.

Besides, and this is for everyone, the biggest help that we get here is expressing our problems freely, pretty much face to face. I hope you can bring yourselves to do so for your sake. Seeing your problems written right in front of you, accurately identified, can be a first step to dealing with them.