does size matter?

[taglit]

I was just curious what girl's feel is the signifigance of a guy's pe***. For example, let's say you haven't ever seen one, and have been shomer, and come your wedding night, would size matter?

[kiyara]

honestly - i think it would/does not matter.

[sweetgirl12237]

think about what u have jsut said... if uve never been iwht a guy, then u have no idea wht to expect and anythign that u do see is going ot seem "strange" if not even a abit scary. dont worry so much about it.. honestly, coming form someone who (not syaing htat im proud of htis) but who has been with many guys... has seen a few... it really doesnt matter if u love the person. my guy now isnt as 'big' as some of hte others ive been wiht and i couldnt care less.. hes the one im marrying and thats it. i am happy and content and honestly i dont think twice about the other guys.. as long as ur confident in what u have u will be fine.

[whuknu]

sweetgirl is right- if uve never been with neone then u really have nothing to compare to anyways. sure we hear that possibly the bigger the more pleasure... but actually also i heard sometimes if someone is really big it could hurt too.

[Comfortably Dumb]

To answer your question, yes. Size does matter. There's a huge difference between two inches and seven inches. The average size is 5.5-6.5. Most males have average penises. I haven't encountered anyone with a small one yet.

[sweetgirl12237]

but that doesnt mean that if ur smaller than the 'average' u ecesarrily need to be freaking out about it... not to get to detailed but big isnt always better... its much more about confidence

[taglit]

do you girls like ever sit together and discuss this with one another, like guessing what size he is or that guy is, is telling i've seen his and ...etc.?

[Teenager]

but that doesnt mean that if ur smaller than the 'average' u ecesarrily need to be freaking out about it... not to get to detailed but big isnt always better... its much more about confidence

what exactly is 'average'

[Some1Else]

i read an artical somewhere that 6in

[forget]

i know this is about guys but i was wondering-
for guys why does it matter if a girl has big breasts or not?
i mean why is bigger better? i'm a nice size but i don't see how it makes a difference. bigger is just a pain in the *** for girls....

[kiyara]

well as girls we wonder that, and probably guys wonder why big is better, they also probably think big is better(penis-wise) anywyas not to get to graphic i think guys like big breasts because its sensual and mushy and fun ... idunno...its just a turn on for them.

[whuknu]

i was going to ask the same question- i dont get it either!

[whuknu]

well so its a turn on but isnt it that a bigger penis provides for more pleasure? (I have no idea)

[Comfortably Dumb]

well so its a turn on but isnt it that a bigger penis provides for more pleasure? (I have no idea)

Not so. It has to be average...

[whuknu]

well i wouldnt know but ive just heard that the bigger the more pleasure- but ive also heard that really big can hurt- but i msure average is fine too. i have no idea about these things- this is just what i hear.

[J&B]

Regarding girls breasts... I really don't think that's such a major issue with most guys. Unless the girl is really flatchested...
Let me tell you how I think guys say if a girl is "hot" or not. I look firstly at the face and the eyes. Then, the general building of the body (not overwheight, not anorexic). Then the hair.
Believe me, most girls are beautiful in at least one of these aspects... Advice: watch your weight (the healthy wheight is fine, doesn't need to go beyond that). Take good care of your skin and your hair. Be self comfident.
Much of the beauty comes from the expresion and gestures. Not from the physical characteristics. So, develop a beautiful smile!

[whuknu]

ok so if a girl is slightly chubby or has a realllly fast metabolism and therefore is underweight she- its difficult to help that- what should she do? I mean u r talking about a perfect girl- skin??? what if a girl has genetically bad skin and hair- what if she tries all she can but its so hard? or shes not rich enough to be able to go to a good dermatologist?

[J&B]

Well, then what if a girl was born with a genetical disorder and she has down sindrome? I mean, off course it is not her fault! I'm just saying what guys like, not what girls are accountable for.

[forget]

it's so pathetic because we always complain how guys are shallow and only like us for our breasts or butt or physical features and such but honestly would you date a guy who had REALLY bad acne? or was very overweight? i mean i know i wouldn't. i'm not saying i go only for "hot" guys, a lot of guys i find attractive because of their personality, but sometimes their appearance is so unappealing that you just can't.

[kiyara]

forget- i slightly disagree with you. up until i met someone i did not think i would ever go out with someone who wasnt good looking. but im telling u- it can change so drastically once u know the person, and some acne or extra fat does not show or even makes the person more sweet looking to you. i dont know if that makes sense, but its not all girls that dont go out with non automatifcally considerred "hot" guys.

[other]

forget- i slightly disagree with you. up until i met someone i did not think i would ever go out with someone who wasnt good looking. but im telling u- it can change so drastically once u know the person, and some acne or extra fat does not show or even makes the person more sweet looking to you. i dont know if that makes sense, but its not all girls that dont go out with non automatifcally considerred "hot" guys.

same here, but i'm a guy

[whuknu]

Forget- ur right! I guess im shallow too… its very sad… but ive just never been in the position- I mean I am friends with guys who are not that good looking and if one of them told me that they liked me- I really don’t know- if I liked one of them for them then maybe id go for it… but otherwise…
I also agree with u kiyara

[azenathan]

ok so speaking from much experience, iv gone out w/ girls that my frends dint exactly approve of looks wise. its more the personality then the actual looks but i am a bit shallow so im not exactly chasing the far from perfect girls. by a moderate weight problem is no problem. and its my opinion that wen u start getting to no sum1 an then falling for them they start to look better

now back to the penis thing. now its true that not being larger then average is not bad at all but none of u r thinkin about wat it like for a guy hu happens to b... well endowed. now i happen to b in this predicament - so lets say theoretically if u were to get aroused in public or in a group of frends... its kinda hard to hide. and it also scares some girls, so its not always so easy. but i hav a couple o girl frends hu rnt virgins and they sed that average is fine, small isnt good, but being large is better. but most jewish women will just nver no the diff.

an i was thinkin cuz of wat 1 o my ex-virgin frends sed that she had been having sex w/ this guy over a period of time and that he had never brought her to orgasm once. so what about these jewish women hu marry guys like this? u guys think that guys can get better w/ practice? cuz if not then there r some jewish women hu r outa luck

[whuknu]

lol- not just jewish women- there are other ppl who wait to have sex till they get married!

[J&B]

so, in general, girls are more atracted to personality than guys?

[whuknu]

i have no idea-when i see a guy whose hot it doesnt mean anything- i will say to a friend 'hes hot' or whtvr but it doesnt mean nething- now if he comes over to me and talks to me and i see his personality then great. if hes a jerk i wouldnt date him (prob wouldnt want to date me neways) and if he was nice and all that and i was attracted to him why not. same goes for a not so good looking guy for me.

[J&B]

honestly, they are very few the boys that will be able to look beyond appearances in the first time. But, then, girls should be aiming for those who are able to! So I think that's the fair balance...

[whuknu]

well what do u think im trying to do? ;)

[forget]

no no i didn't mean at all that those little things would make me not like a guy or want to go out with one. but i'm just saying how girls can be as or even more judjemental about guys. i have liked a lot guys who AREN'T good looking at all. i just never cared because they were way to cool. i just wanted to say how girls aren't all innocent. just because we don't judge based on more sexual features doesn't mean we don't judge. but really there is sometimes when a person just can't be appealing to you no matter how hard you try. it obviously shows you don't like them enough but it doesn't make you a bad person.

[azenathan]

the whole girls r more into personalities thing is pure bs. i remember this comercial on tv that was like "wen u first c a person u dont think, wow i bet that person is really smart or wow he/she prob has an awesome personality" no every1 is equally as shallow cuz we always judge a perosn on their looks the first time we see em

[whuknu]

first of all when u first see a person thats all u see- what is laid out in front of u... maybe it is bs sometimes i do say oh hes cute or hes ugly- but either way i give both parties a chance to prove themselves of good character to me b4 i decide if i like them or not. the guys i like r u usually not so good looking. i wouldnt say they are butt ugly- but makybe thats cuz ive aready learned who they are.

[J&B]

i was thinking the other day that beauty is important anyway.
i mean, imagine (sorry, from a guy's perspective...) that you marry a girl that is kind and everything but her face reminds you of yassir arafat, and her body, of ed murphy's "big mama"... you don't marry her cuz ur attracted to her. u aren't. you will live happily with her, till your sexual instinct asks you for more... and it will happen! no1 is perfect forever! so, you might end up cheating on her. after all, you aren't atracted to her.
if she were fitter, you can quiet your sexual apetite by truely feeling attracted to her...
i'm not saying that beauty should be top priority, but it should be a concern anyway...
Do you agree?

[other]

should or is?

[whuknu]

beauty is in the eye of the beholder- i love the color pink- other ppl think its ugly... real woman have curves.... skinny woman- dont u feel like ur going to break her? (ive heard guys sey that b4). ok so u dont want to marry an obese woman who reminds u of an enemy of ours (lol)- thats understandable. and i dont want to marry a guy like that either. But s/he doesnt have to be a model... sure the guys from abercrombie and fitch are hot... but guys dont have to be that hot to be attractive... just not what u described.

[SuperGrl]

i dont think that size should matter. your obviously not fallign in love with the person for the size. youre fallign in love with that person for who they are. for what they stand for, not for their size. if you love that someone you'll see that when yes, the time will come, that none of that will matter to u. remeber: beauty is the eye of the beholder

[2face78]

size doesnt matter its all about the potency in the end. plus- if ur a good jewish girl you only see one full size mr nice guy in ur life so if ur the husband of a nice jewish girl u can act as though u have the biggest feet on the block.
IM OUT

[Spanyolit]

Its not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean- thats a quote from a movie.

but in all seriousness...if you never saw one before it doesnt matter and there are many other things that help make the sexual intercourse better than just the size, there is the connection, feelings etc

[WhoAmI]

besides just for sex itself, god created every1 to work the way he wanted them to. size and eveything. just dont let it become such a part of you that you're scared of not "measuring up"

[chickflik]

lemme ask a guy this question then...does the size of a girls chest really matter?

[taglit]

it really depends, for me a big chest really does it. but that's also somethings that more overtly noticeable

[Some1Else]

it really depends, for me a big chest really does it. but that's also somethings that more overtly noticeable

Ya, kinda; just as a size matters for a guy because its more fun, same with a girl

[CptCatz]

lemme ask a guy this question then...does the size of a girls chest really matter?
yes...it does

[chickflik]

why do u care whether a girl has small breasts or large breasts?

[CptCatz]

because thats how guys are...its just something that girls will never get...kinda like how i will never get why girls need 30 pairs of shoes or more than one bathing suit

[booklet0519]

we "need" all these things, bc they help us feel more attractive- especially those of us who are "less endowed"

[IHateSATs]

I guess it could be that what's defined as "beauty" in contemporary American society is large breasts. I always wondered if noses were considered obscene, would people walk around covering them and getting nose implants? I see why cptcatz would say that size matters but then again i think that he's responding not from his own head but from the values society has put in him.
My own answer to the question - I personally look for a girl who is a good match to my personality, and if I could date with my eyes closed and not walk into telephone poles (whoops I have done that on dates with my eyes open and I'm not kidding) I would definitely do it. Looks for me are secondary to personality. However in the locker room of my co-ed Yeshiva I seem to be the extremely small minority. I hear most guys saying "person x has a huge rack etc..."

The short answer is that for most guys size matters but if you're a deep person and an internally beautiful person:

that will shine thru
the kinds of guys who deserve you aren't the kinds of guys who look down at whats under the shirt rather than under the skin.
Hope I was of some help!

-IHateSATs

[convoluted]

So first of all i suppose i should disclose im a guy

Secondly i would like to share from a survey given at my school a co-ed yeshiva highschool in NY; of a large grade (i dont wnt to give away what HS) on freshman seminar we reveal this survey of what the freshman took earlier, its anonymous the results are somewhat accureate and are compared to prev. years, the 2 questions im going to reveal are similar to my year and thus prob accurate.

To freshie girls:
Question: What is more important in a boy his looks or his personality?
Answer 99.?% Personality / 100-.?% (~.5% i forget very small) Looks

To the freshie guys:
Question: SAME
Answer:about 55 looks-/ 45 personality (they probably lied, girls in the room and all)

Ok Analysis: It seems to me by females the emotional attachment is much more important (even from a younger age) By guys i think appreciation of personality comes at an older age, ☼If the same survey was given now i believe the results would be about 80-90 personality / 20-10 looks.☼ So now i would like to say 2 things, i think as a younger kid i was more into large... but now i seem to be very attracted to the body type of the girl whose personality i like (coincidence? i think not) and i expect in general such a trend, also i have pretty bad acne and plenty of female friends, why do i think ti works bc ur personality is what shines through and controls things.

In summary
*for arousing the females well the results show that personality is what counts, and thus dont think its any different in the bedroom.
*guys: your personality is what counts so dont worry so much about looks but instead of being cool at the sacrifice of your personality, try to be a nice guy (THERES STILL HOPE!)
*for girls- at least from personal experinece it seems that your personality ultimately makes u attractive.

[CptCatz]

I see why cptcatz would say that size matters but then again i think that he's responding not from his own head but from the values society has put in him.
sorry but you're wrong. well actually, you might be right but that you said might not make sense. the responses from my head are there because of the values society has put in it. when i see a random girl on the street, i dont think to myself "ooh i wonder if shes funny and nice" i think "wow look at that rack on her".

[other]

yes...it does

I think it just like size when it comes to guys

[IHateSATs]

well while that might be your thought process, I was thinking more in the psychological sense of "what makes you think that that's what you define as hot?" I was saying that regardless of whether or not you're aware of it, society has placed the subconscious values in you to say that women with a "big rack" as you put it are ones who you deem beautilful because society tells you that's beauty.
Basically what I'm saying is, "it's not that lust is unnatural. What you're lusting at is definitely impacted by society."

-IHateSATs

[CptCatz]

well while that might be your thought process, I was thinking more in the psychological sense of "what makes you think that that's what you define as hot?" I was saying that regardless of whether or not you're aware of it, society has placed the subconscious values in you to say that women with a "big rack" as you put it are ones who you deem beautilful because society tells you that's beauty.
Basically what I'm saying is, "it's not that lust is unnatural. What you're lusting at is definitely impacted by society."

-IHateSATs
even so, whats the differance?

[elbubbniaevili]

Not nessecerely. Lust is a basic human instinct, and while we are all somewhat a product of are environment, urges are stronger then social pressures. Our bodies are built the way the our to serve certian purposes. Women are built the way the are to attract the opposite sex and to be able to procreate and give birth. Though that may seem sexist, its true. Men were anitomical construct to hunt and provide thus explaining the reason why men build muscle easier and have more of it. So when it comes doen to it, guys are attract to women that are well endowned in the chest area because biologically there bodies are sending them the message that this women would be good to mate with because she is health and built well to carry and provide for children. Hope you all enjoyed the biology lesson.