are relationships useless at this age, or a good learning tool for the future?

[x______delusions]

I debate with this issue all the time. I insist on getting myself involved with guys and getting hurt. I know I'm going to get hurt, and I get myself involved anyway. I always say that relationships are useless bullsh*t that don't mean anything at my age, but I'm partly speaking out of bias because of what I've experienced. Can things actually evolve from high school flings and crushes and so called "love," or is it truly useless and just a heartbreaker?

[convoluted]

you would probably like this: it is the intro of a book on the topic and i think covers your issue; check it out: http://www.jewishbktown.com/st/Jewish_books_Head_to_Heart.htm

[oz_borgz]

hey, omg u fully just read my mind! if the relationship isnt going to go anywhere and u are going to get hurt regardless is there any point? but if u dont date where will u get the experience to date when the relationships will actually count? i lack an answer but when i find one i'll let u know
borgz (yes i'm a girl, i know my nic is boyish)

[Dontknow]

So i used to think that HS relationships were stupid. Especially at the beggining of high school. I mean ur still so young and whtvr. But some ppl do actually last thru HS. if you are "going out" for like 2 weeks, that kind is usually stupid. but like if u go out for months and even a couple of yrs, even if it doesnt end up working out, usually it is a good experience. or it could be really painful. I think also that relationships at the end of high shool (if u are both headed in a similar direction) are also ok.

[crazyboy]

I have mixed feelings about the whole situation and am not sure what is right

[rainydays2]

i feel like hs relationships are usually more pressured bc u want to do it if your friends are. these are pointless and dont last and someone will always end up getting hurt. but then again, sometimes it really is real and it lasts for a while. this will probably hurt more when/if it ends, but is worth the experiance.

[Confuzedinlimbo]

I think you need the practice, but dont get too emotionally attached. I had a boyfriend that I actually really really liked and he was my only experience because i only go out if I really really like the guy which I rarely do because all the Jewish guys I;ve met my age are too immature. but yea, you need practice. at least have one relationship b4 high school is over.

[rainydays2]

but if the relationship is pointless, like a one week fling, i dont see it as being a good experiance.

[Confuzedinlimbo]

well, for example, i dont act any differently with guy friends but when i get a b/f i freeze, like i dont know how to act. so a small fling may not be worth it but if ur going out for a few months, you could just get used to what it's like