I AM SO SUPERFICIAL

[Confuzedinlimbo]

Ok, so when it comes to friends I dont care what u look like or what your social status is, its totally irrelevant. But this guy asked me out over the summer and I started to freak out and said no after thinking abt it for like a day.

Let me explain, I am hot. I dont really know, but guys tell me this, so i believe them. Anyways this guy asks me out but he is like so frickin skinny and im like big boned (not as in "fat," as in broad shoulders, hips, curvey, that sort of thing) and his skinnyness just turned me off just cause like, his *** was half of mine and he isn't so cute.
So I start thinking about our looks and i'm so not attracted to him plus he's kind of geeky. I dunno, im thinking mebbe i'm more superficial than I should be.

Then this other guy asks me out recently who I love to peices but i'm just not physically attracted to him. So i say no. Am I too superficial or just freaked out by relationships? For the record I neva had one that lasted more than 4 months.

I have standards but are they too high?? I dunno.

[kiyara]

i dont know if you are too afraid of relationships, only u can figure that out.
as far as not being attracted to someone who asks you out, ur correct in saying no--u dont go out w someone bc u feel bad for them, if u dont like them, u shoudnt be going out with them.

also, dont do something just because ur afraid u might be getting too "superficial" u have to go with ur gut feeling, and dont worry about what you might get classified as.

[BKLYNsix4]

OK the the first thats gotta is the I'm hot attitude. If u are thats great and telling urself that is also a good but u shouldnt just flat out say it cause then u sound like a vain peice of work. But dotn worry about saying no to the kids. If u dont like them, u cant force urslef to like them. And besides, in a way you kind of pu them in their place.

[Confuzedinlimbo]

BKLYNsix4-Im sorry if I came off with that attitude. I honestly dont think that, but i guess its what other's perceive and I wanted to be unbiased. like i know people judge themselvs harsher than other people do, so i thought maybe because i'm judging myself i have a negative bias and had better just write what other's seem to perceive.
Also, i said it flat out just because thats how i say things. I like to, for the most part, do without the smoke and mirrors.
But i've been thinking about it. like i dont have a big self esteem but i am vain. meaning, i check myself out in the mirror way more than I should even though i dont always like what I see.

Also, what do you mean by "you put them in their place?"