I want to become friends

[Rammer]

This really sucks. First, I don't know if I should be posting here or in relationships&sex. Second is that I want to become friends with a different girl in my grade, but we have nothing to do with each other. I don't know why I have this crazy idea, but I do. Is it because she's pretty, cool, popular, looks fun to be around? I can't answer this question. It's probably because, I'm embarrassed to admit, she's pretty and looks fun to be around. So I want to be friends, have nothing to do with her, and feel uncomftorable around her. I guess that's how someone would feel around a pop star. I am a pathetic loser. What is wrong with me?! (Background: I am a girl, and straight, according to relationships)

[kiyara]

hmm ok, i hear you, and thats a very valid "want" , but do you have any friends of your own right now, already? because sometimes when u push for a relationship, it ends up forced and sour. i dont know how old you are/how involved you are in your circle of friends/grade, but i just dont know if its all that necessary. you just know her outward appearance, after all.

[Rammer]

You're right-I already have friends. I'm probably just another superficial teenager. I needed somewhere to rant.

[lifesux01]

you shouldnt let it bother you, who cares if shes pretty and popular and what ever, shes only like that because she probily has alot of her own personal problems. and shes probily also extreamly snoby and rude...and trust me im also a loser at school but i make the best of it i have my friends act myself have a good time but i do also have those break down moments bc i get picked on ALOT

[savin me]

i know how you feel, theres this girl in my grade i always thought was so cool but didn't know how to approach her or get close to her so i generally just stayed away. over the summer we were on the same program and shared a room in the place we were staying and got pretty close, im glad we were able to and as it turns out she wanted to be friends with me too. so maybe you should just start hanging out with her or something. i dont really know the situation. is she in your group of friends so when you hang out you can start talking or is she in a different click and everything? if shes in your group of friends you should just hang out with her at group gatherings or wtvr. if not...idk..sorry im not so good with advice and all ubt i try.

[booklet0519]

i know for myself that theres probobaly somethig about her that really "attracts" u-- charisma or the like... with me... i will always want to eb the girl like that=- but i knwo ti will never happen.. but this summer i became extremly close to someone that i dont know if i would ahev had the guts to appraoch at home...

so i haev to echo savin -- try it... the worst that could happen is that she thinks ur a total loser, and u end up with the same friends as before....
the best- u have a friend u really admire

[TheShiznay]

Rammer- If you're drawn to this girl because she seems like she'd be "cool" to hang out with, that's totally normal. People with charisma or popular people who are liked by everyone just have that aura about them; you want to be friendly with them.
What I'd suggest is just start by saying hello, smiling, asking her how she is, maybe striking up an occassional conversation. See if anything clicks and whether this would be a friendship worth pursuing or if you were just drawn in. If it's a friendship worth pursuing, you'll get along well and it will grow from there, and if you two just don't get along as good friends, only as aquaintances, there's nothing wrong with that either. Some people just don't mesh. As long as you're polite and friendly, you did your part.

I hope that made sense, I'm a bit out of it. I apologize. O_o

[BigGirl]

I had your same problem when I was in school. I ended up dumping my real friends and not becoming friends with this girl because I got nervous talking to her. even when I had the chance to talk to her (we walked home from the bus together) we really didn't talk. I ruined my high school life. so make sure not to ignore your real friends.

Do you have any friends who are friends with her? cause then maybe you can all do stuff together. also if you are going to talk to her you have to lose your intimidation, otherwise you'll talk to her and then feel like an idiot cause you think you sounded like an idiot or didn't say what you wanted to say. my best way of doing that is being overtired .
The other way is to work on your self confidence. maybe try a how to make friends book. one girl I know read one and she said it was really good. she became pretty popular.