Parties

[Elvira]

i'm not sure if this goes in this board, or the social pressure one, but anyway...

in my neighborhood the parties are a really big part of our lives. i probably hit a party around twice a month. but i definitely feel a pressure at a party to go with the flow, and the flow is usually in one direction, if you know what i mean ;)

i'm just wondering if anyone else out there has any thoughts on the whole scene. i'm kinda psyched that these boards are so full now (its been a while since i've been back) - so i'm more relaxed now to talk about stuff. (i think i was like the first person to post here!). anyhow - more later.

[Thirtygoatsforyourwife]

Well parties to the extent that i'd assume you have, are pretty amazing to go to, and a great experience. The only thing what we all know that we have to have a 'designated driver' ****.
The only other problem i can think of is if some people are too high or wasted where they come to have sex, though they wouldn't have if they were sober. So you gotta watch out for that cause you don't wanna ruin your life (or someone elses, if ure a guy), and party on!

[kiyara]

is anyone else scared of parties??
if you are a bit insecure, it can be like sudden death-

~social situation, talking to people, etc.
~the sex, alcohol, drugsi guess thats pretty much it, but those are big deals

[Confuzedinlimbo]

alot of people take drugs and drik because they're insecure. like, they're losers who aren't funnyso they do this stuff to make them funny and outgoing. But hat happens when they're not drunk? They turn back into this patheric little boy/girl with no social skill and who can;t even crack a good joke w/out the booz and X. That's no way to live. If you love me, love me for me. For my own humor and my own wacky ideas. Love me, not the drugs.

~confuzed in limbo~your starchild~

[kiyara]

you bring a good point limbo. And in all honesty, I dont have much experience with parties and stuff. I'm thinking about what you said with the losers drinking and being varefree and funny - I wouldn't think that it would work out that way....if someone has a reputation, even if they do the bad stuff that loosens them up, people will still keep their distance, no?
It's not that easy to get accepted.
I man they may laugh AT them and get a kick out of this loser thinking their cool but yea..

[Confuzedinlimbo]

Let me clarify (and this is totally steriotypical and not what i automatically assume of these people so dont get me wrong.). You have the popuar jock who goes to parties and gets drunk. But maby he's shy around girls during parties so he drinks to hide his insecurities. Or a drugged out rock and roll band. They smoke to look cool.

[Thirtygoatsforyourwife]

Ditto limbo (what does your name mean?), good points. My only problem is with the way you're pointing out that the losers are doing it to look cool and that's why it's bad. The thing is that even what cool people do just for fun, is wrong too. Just liked to point it out.

[Confuzedinlimbo]

true dat, but at least those people don'tdoit to prove something, they do it for them and don't live for anybody else, I respect that.
My name-limbo is the place in between heaven and hell where souls go when they have an equal amount of good and bad deeds.
so i'm confuzed, stuck between good and evil and don't know where to turn. that's basically it.
i do have some strong points that I try to keep and have for years but I'm really close to snapping. but still holding out :-). I like your name, it's cute.

[kiyara]

omg, you know about limboland!!!!
haha...its like a kind of school joke.

Thirstygoats--what is your name for?? Is it like some sort of pun about when the avot go to the wells and like give water to each others wives camels.....(like yitzhak and rivka...)

or am i totally off

[Icegal104]

I am scared to go to parties cuz-
a- i have NEVER been to a party
b- my parents prabobly wouldnt let me go anyway
c- there might be grinding or sex at those kinds of parties (look at my posts in the sex and pouplartiy sections) and anyway, isnt there like a drug & drinkin scene at parties?
so if i dont go to the parties i seem like a nerd but if i DO go i get in trouble
wat should i do?
get back 2 me on this one peeps
~I Luv Ice~

[kiyara]

do you WANT to go?

Are your parents really religious and they wont let you go to a party? I mean say its like a get together at your friends house....if they dont let you, you are NOT missing anything.

Dont feel pressure to be in the whole partying scene(i know, its hard) but realy - its pretty shallow and pointless the whole thing.

[Hebraish]

I think that you have at some parties, it's a mixture of different types of people. There are some kids who are into drugs and sex, and others who are more religious, but are friends of someone at the party and in general want to have fun. it's nice that we can all hang out, but you should not feel that you are forced to do something that you don't want to do. We should still all get together.

[Confuzedinlimbo]

Well, I went to a party at this cafe in fairlawn and all the girls were wearing sleevless and grinding. the grinding I don't care about but i don't dress with sleevless (I know I know, grinding is prpobably worse, but the clothing issue is sumthin my parents alwayse press on me so I'm more careful about that)and outside alot of people were smoking and I don't smoke. And I can't tell you how Jewish I felt because...like...they were playing hip hop which isn't my scene at ALL (kudos to all rock n' roll fans out there) so I wasn't dancing much and i was dressed more Orthodox (I had come straight from school) and I didn't smoke (even tho I was offered..good little girl, right?) And I would have no problem with drinking except my DAD was picking me up and that would have turned out bad. So that wasn't a very good situation. But I actually had a good time cause I danced sumtimes and had two of my friends with me. So it was cool.

[pongo]

ok i dont understand why everyone is bashing the party scene. Partys are fun! You just have to know your limit.